A very short month ago I had the privilege of attending the
Mosaix 2013 conference.
Wow. Over 1,000 leaders from all over the country,
at different stages on the multi-ethnic church continuum, learning and growing
together! There were many thoughts that
have come with me from that conference, but one was from an offline
conversation between my Pastor, Chris Beard, and David Anderson who were both
speakers at the conference. Chris asked
David “what do you believe it would take to really break the back of racism in
our country.” David thought and finally
answered, “a national forgiveness for
slavery.”
Right, national forgiveness.
This might seem premature, after all the House and Senate couldn't even
come into agreement on their national apologies which were offered in 2008 and
2009, respectively. However, a simple
discussion drove home its importance to me.
In Sunday school recently, I was talking with the 6th graders
(adorable) about the power of forgiveness. One boy
mentioned there was one person he could not forgive- for leaving and for
hurting his mom. I took that in, took a
deep breath and remembered that the Bible is still true no matter how your
heart wants to agree with the pain of a young boy. I took him to the parable of the unforgiving
servant (Matt 18:21-35) and by the end of it, he could see that unforgiveness
will always turn us over to the torturers, just as happened to the unforgiving
servant in the end. The person we
fail to forgive doesn't hurt- it’s us that suffer.
Slavery isn't a debt easily forgiven. Its long-term consequences are far from mitigated as understood by those of us who research them or live them-
Slavery isn't a debt easily forgiven. Its long-term consequences are far from mitigated as understood by those of us who research them or live them-
WHY :
1. It relieves a natural tension- The reason why the Senate apology for slavery never passed the full Congress was due to language about reparations. However you may feel about the topic, it is easy to see that the very mention of reparations brings up strong emotions and sharp divides. Guilt, resentment and anger aren’t far behind. By offering forgiveness without preconditions, negative emotions are defused. It becomes less about “what do you want from me?” and more about a shared future.
2. It begins a conversation- Many Americans do not feel that they need to be forgiven for slavery. They are unaware of its legacy or its benefits to those who built wealth from it (which in some ways is all of us). Offering forgiveness also offers a non-confrontational way for those who are unconsciously ignorant (not a negative word, just a matter- of- fact one) about racial issues to learn and to grow.
3. It puts the onus on the other party- Being offered forgiveness softens hearts in a way that promotes a response. Just as it’s God’s kindness that leads us to repentance, our kindness to each other will bring us into closer relationship.
1. It relieves a natural tension- The reason why the Senate apology for slavery never passed the full Congress was due to language about reparations. However you may feel about the topic, it is easy to see that the very mention of reparations brings up strong emotions and sharp divides. Guilt, resentment and anger aren’t far behind. By offering forgiveness without preconditions, negative emotions are defused. It becomes less about “what do you want from me?” and more about a shared future.
2. It begins a conversation- Many Americans do not feel that they need to be forgiven for slavery. They are unaware of its legacy or its benefits to those who built wealth from it (which in some ways is all of us). Offering forgiveness also offers a non-confrontational way for those who are unconsciously ignorant (not a negative word, just a matter- of- fact one) about racial issues to learn and to grow.
3. It puts the onus on the other party- Being offered forgiveness softens hearts in a way that promotes a response. Just as it’s God’s kindness that leads us to repentance, our kindness to each other will bring us into closer relationship.
Now some will ask, what gives us standing to forgive?
1.Philosophical literature generally extends
the right to forgive to not just the direct but also the indirect victims of a
wrong. All Americans have been hurt by
the sin of slavery to the extent that it has served to keep us racially separated,
particularly in our churches, and in fact created racism as we know it through
the slave trade.Furthermore,
forgiveness is always appropriate where deep hurt exists. I have had more than
enough conversations to know the pain of slavery remains- this on its own gives
standing to forgive.
2.The second question is: who needs to be forgiven
anyway? Well in some ways we would be
forgiving our great country for the great contradiction of promoting liberty
and freedom while denying it based on skin color. In some ways, we’d be forgiving Americans of
all shades who remain ignorant of the contribution slaves made to building the
country. We’d be forgiving the
evangelical churches who sanctioned slavery, were silent during Civil Rights
and continue to be mono-ethnic today. And we’d be forgiving those who don’t
recognize the momentum of history and its impact on our lives today.
Some attempts have already been made at just such a
forgiveness as found at this link: http://forgivenessdocument.weebly.com/
. It would be wonderful if a document
such as this became an initiative of the Church.
The imperative to forgive becomes even more pointed as we
mourn the passing of Nelson Mandela this week and celebrate his legacy. His capacity to forgive and include his oppressors
makes my jaw drop. He taught himself
Afrikaans while in prison to communicate with those in power saying “If you
talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes
to his heart.” He deepened in empathy
and compassion while in prison instead of in hatred. And although South Africa still has a
tremendously long way to go in terms of bringing about complete equality,
Mandela’s outreached life of reconciliation stands as a shining example to us
all.
Forgiveness is not about others’ need to be forgiven; it is
about the hurting needing to heal. And I
believe we need complete healing to move forward as one church: multi-ethnic,
multi-racial, worshiping across every division of human origin. I am more than willing to forgive. I pray we collectively don’t forget.
"It begins a conversation- Many Americans do not feel that they need to be forgiven for slavery. They are unaware of its legacy or its benefits to those who built wealth from it (which in some ways is all of us). Offering forgiveness also offers a non-confrontational way for those who are unconsciously ignorant (not a negative word, just a matter- of- fact one) about racial issues to learn and to grow."
ReplyDeleteIn so many ways, listening to each other and engaging in meaningful conversation is typically the first step to mutual respect and understanding. Also, as you mentioned in your post, the objective is to embrace "forgiveness as a tool to build multi-ethnic churches that look like heaven." once again, insightful.